Tips to help preserve your sanity with a new born!
Here are some tips that we have collected from talking to mothers who have been through it before you.
- Don’t be embarrassed to say no to visitors. If you feel awkward saying no, then get your husband to do it for you.
- If the baby is born in winter- get a good “pram pushing” coat and shoes as you may find yourself pounding the streets in the rain trying to get the baby to sleep!
- Warm his cot or moses basket with a hot water bottle so that when you transfer the baby from your chest to the cot he still feels the warmth. (Obviously do not leave it in there or he will over heat)
- Get your partner involved with as much as possible as soon as possible. They need to learn to have confidence and therefore need to be given the chance rather than you taking control whenever baby cries.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for advice about anything – every question has been asked before and nothing is embarrassing
- If you are feeling teary, miserable, down please please please go to the doctor. It’s absolutely normal to be depressed and they can help you.
- If you do not feel immediate love for your baby then do not worry. If you have had a traumatic birth or you have a difficult baby, you may find it harder to “fall in love” with your baby straight away. I did not feel a passionate love for my baby until about 16 weeks.
- Get out of the house every day. Set yourself a job to do – go to the post office, get a coffee, pick up a bottle of wine – no matter how bad the weather staying at home on your own with a baby will send you doolally!
- Just leave a messy house, it can get tidied another day
- Babies don’t need to have their babygros ironed – sit down and watch TV and relax instead of ironing!